Can I photograph you?

I cannot quite pinpoint the exact time you started saying no, though it feels like it might be for much of this year by now. 

Looking through our family albums I notice that I don’t feature much. I know I’m there, you know I’m there, forever (silently) clicking away. It’s just in those years to come, when I want to think of you opening the pages and being able to see me really looking at you, knowing you.

Speaking into the gaps you may be missing at points of your life by then.

So I’m filling in these gaps right now. I’m turning every no, every first time in your life that I want to photograph you, into a self portrait.

So that one of us is there.

Until you are ready to say yes again. From your birthday morning, to the other weekend when you caught the train alone for the first time, to the quiet moments when the light is shining on you and I see something that irritates you now… but may just make you smile later.


Artifact Motherhood is a collaboration of artists/mothers from around the world. Sharing stories of the joys and struggles of our journey. Our hopes and dreams for our children. With little nuggets of wisdom here and there. These are more than photographs with dates written on the back. These are the artifacts we are leaving behind for our children and the generations to come.

Please visit the next artist in our blog circle, the talented Lauren Webster and continue through all the artists until you get back to me.

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